Connections
What was said:
“You must be very good at that. I bet the kids all love you. You have the perfect personality for that.”
Who said it:
My piano professor from graduate school.
What I heard:
“Good thing you aren’t teaching privately or performing because I don’t think you would be good at those things.”
Have I mentioned where I am right now?
Professional development has always been a double-edged sword for me. I got into teaching because I wanted to be a lifelong learner and I’m doing it. Teaching and learning. I also would like to be good at it, though. As a teacher, I don’t think I can call myself a good learner if I am not sharing what I am learning effectively. I don’t know what it will take for me to feel like a successful professional, but I don’t usually feel that way. I looked into the hotel mirror and plucked a gray chin hair. Clearly, there’s no longer a place for me at the young professionals’ workshop. I’m losing time!
This is my first MTNA conference since 2019. They had been canceled, and then virtual, until last year, but I was not ready to attend an in-person conference until this school year. PD, while valuable, has just been one. more. thing. At least for me, I have to be in a place where I can absorb information well so I can share it. The last 4 years have been a lot for us all (really the last 8 if you have any interest in the US being a democratic republic), and perhaps I’ve needed more time to process than most. I don’t know if that’s okay, but it is what it is. I took students to the FEMEA Southern Regional Chorus in October, to FMEA All-State Chorus in January, and now I am here, trying to figure out how best I can serve myself and my students. Do I trust God enough to connect with others? Is it possible that I can serve Him better by seeking their help in my professional endeavors?
I’ve found myself reluctantly interacting with people. It would be unfair to call me a cold person, but I definitely am an introvert with a nasty case of imposter syndrome. Why am I here? I don’t have any private students right now, though I do teach group piano at work. I don’t want to open my mouth and then someone learn that I have nothing to offer them. Nightmare fuel. I will say that I’ve run into supportive people, including my professor, a friend from Seattle I was expecting to see, and a friend from my FSU years that I have not seen since 2008! I’ve stepped way out of my comfort zone by sightreading simple duets with a stranger, who was quite helpful in talking about how she set up her business. It’s just so hard for me to put myself out there and be vulnerable, which was literally the first advice I got in my first teaching job out of school – learn to be open. 13 years later, I still struggle.
One reason I know that I am in the right field is because music helps me to be my best self. I get so excited to share music I am less focused on my many imperfections than connecting with the music and the people who made it and who will make it. It’s so incredibly powerful. Maybe instead of dreading networking, I can look forward to connecting with people who are passionate about the same things that I am.
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